You hear about men and women finding their "high school sweethearts" years after high school, well I found mine.

However, the difference is mine is my best friend, Kirsty. We found each other after 10 years of no contact, except for the occasional note on classmates.

It's amazing when you think about it because what is a high school sweetheart? What is there that in 10, 20, or even 30 years later you reconnect and your feelings are still there, your emotions are still there, but you both are more grown up?

Before reconnecting with Kirsty, I made the occasional new friend. However, they were not what my soul wanted. They filled a void, but could not compare to things I once knew. They lacked what my heart and soul longed for. I couldn't be myself completely. I stood around one that I felt inadequate around, but we were still friends. I felt as though I always had to change my looks and change the way I thought to how she looked and to how she thought. I know you are sitting there saying, "well c'mon that is just not a friend." Well maybe not, but at the time she was a friend and she was who was in my life as a friend. We are obviously no longer friends, which is great for me as my self esteem and my individuality were almost completely gone.

I connected with so many people on so many different levels of friendship. However, the moment Kirsty and I sat down in the same room, it felt as though we were right back in high school and 10 years never passed us by. We reconnected on EVERY level.

Feelings and emotions for a high school sweetheart fall into a completely different category than attraction. After so many years bodies change into something more adult and different than what you knew that person to be in high school. Attraction is definitely not reason for reconnection. I believe that what you feel is the feeling of being comfortable, the joy of just being yourself. As you grown older and meet new people, being able to just be yourself, is difficult. So you are a little loud, so you openly test out new bathroom products in Big Lots, your high school sweetheart (best friend) will laugh and think that was a great idea or laugh and accept what you did without judgement.

My man will always be the man I met in high school, but Kirsty will be the one I connected to on such a deep level that there is a bond there that cannot be broken.